Over the years, Martin Seligman's work has focused on depression, pessimism and optimism. His early studies on depression and learned helplessness (i.e., that you are stuck and nothing will ever change so why bother to try to change your circumstances) are well known. He has concluded that people can learn to be optimistic, and he says he has extensive research to prove it.
|Learning to be Optimistic|
Martin Seligman - "Father of Positive Psychology"
Seligman is considered by many to be the "father of positive psychology." Traditional psychology tends to deal with psychological pathology. Its focus is on mental illness. Positive psychology looks at wellness. It's a strengths-based perspective. Positive psychology looks at what's right with a client rather than only what's wrong. The positive psychology movement was built on the work of psychologists Abraham Maslow (Maslow's hierarchy of needs) and Carl Rogers (client-centered psychotherapy). One of the big differences between their work and Seligman's is that Seligman has a large body of research to support his theories.
Seligman suggests looking at particular areas where you face adversity and asking yourself what beliefs you have about them, and the consequences of your beliefs (the ABCs). So, for instance, one example he gives is of a woman who is dieting. She has been doing very well and has lost weight. One day, she goes out with friends, has a couple of drinks and eats a couple of Nachos. Afterwards, she feels badly that she has gone off her diet and she engages in all-or-nothing thinking: I went off my diet. I'm probably going to gain back the weight I lost, so I might as well go all the way and eat a whole chocolate cake and whatever other snacks I want because I've already blown it. So, the adversity she is facing is that she has gone off her diet. The belief is that she has totally blown it, which is a distortion in her thinking. The consequences are that she gives up. In this case, Seligman recommends that she look at her thinking and challenge her usual pattern of pessimism. Rather than giving up, she can say to herself: Yes, I went off my diet tonight but, in reality, I really didn't eat or drink that much and I can resume my diet again--rather than giving up. This example is one of many in his book, Learned Optimism.
|Martin Seligman, Ph.D., author of the book, Learned Optimism|
In addition to Learned Optimism, I also recommend Seligman's book, Authentic Happiness. In Authentic Happiness, you can learn about your signature strengths. Seligman also has a web site where you can discover your signature strengths: (http://www.authentichappiness.sas.upenn.edu ). Some of the strengths that are measured in his survey are: love of learning, curiosity, social intelligence, creativity, sense of purpose, humor and playfulness, modesty and humility, the ability to forgive, diligence and perseverance, gratitude, critical thinking, and much more. These strengths are not static--they can change over time as you change. I recommend getting to know your signature strengths so you can use and build on them in your life.
Another book that I recommend is called Happier is by psychologist Tal Ben-Shahar, Ph.D. (http://www.talbenshahar.com/). Ben-Shahar's class on positive psychology at Harvard was attended by thousands of students and it was one of their most popular classes.
I'll be writing more about postive psychology in future posts.
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